Happy New Now!
Instead of seeing the flip of a calendar being a portal into new possibilities, I imagine coasting on a steady, spiral continuum of being that offers us infinite possibilities with every breath and every blink.
With every breath, every blink, it can all be new. Our evolution1 is neither limited nor buoyed by confines of time. But since our occupancy in this realm, as this form, is finite, there are some very real considerations to take and decisions to make.
You don’t need to see the whole way. All you need to know is the NEXT BEST YES.
- Mama Oprah Winfrey
This quote has helped me greatly when I’m wondering and wandering in swirls of “what next,” and over the years I’ve come to replace next with NOW, which is the most powerful portal of possibility.
I also substitute best (which can send us overthinkers and analytic paralytics into a tailspin) with WHOLE-HIPPED, which is juicy, clear and visceral. I replace You with I since everything applies to me first, and I cannot rightfully preach what I have not practiced.
With these adaptations, I alchemize this wisdom into a more powerful potion for my life:
I don’t need to see the whole way. All I need to know is MY NOW WHOLE-HIPPED YES. As I devote myself to it, the way unfolds—and I with it. Gloriously.
I had to zhujj it up a bit to feel it in my belly and bone.
The PRIMARY soft ask dancing with me is:
TO WHOM AND WHAT IS MY WHOLE-HIPPED YES CONSISTENTLY DRAWN?
Here are 38 additional soft asks to nourish your evolution and initiations into your NOW WHOLE-HIPPED YES.
Where is my WHOLE-HIPPED YES calling me?
How does that2 YES feel IN my body?
What keeps me from answering its call?
What part of that YES is possible and accessible in this now? (Inspired by Mother Mother Binahkaye Joy)
How can I let that YES feel even more good? (not “better,” even more good … breaking grammar rules intentionally just hit different.)
What does my YES require of me?
Which requirement am I now ready to honor?
What is the WHY beneath and within my WHOLE-HIPPED YES?
What do I truly and simply3 desire?
What desires have I hidden or ignored?
Why have I neglected them?
Where do they live in my body?
What is my relationship with that part of my body?
What is the health of that part of my body?
What scares me (causing me to freeze, flee or fight) about my WHOLE-HIPPED YES?
What questions, discomforts, feelings and thoughts am I avoiding by neglecting my WHOLEHIPPED YES?
To what or whom does my WHOLE-HIPPED YES require me to say “NO”?
How do I know when to say NO?
Where in my body does my NO live?
What are all the ways I can say NO?
What behaviors, beliefs or bonds is my body saying NO to?
What Yeses am I now living within that contradict or otherwise impede the brilliance of my NOW WHOLE-HIPPED YES?
What happens if I don’t do what I think I must?
What promises must I break to preserve my commitment to my NOW WHOLE-HIPPED YES?
What experiences might my WHOLE-HIPPED YES create or birth?
What awakens my WHOLE-HIPPED YES? (or enlivens me)
What dulls my WHOLE-HIPPED YES? (or drains me)
Which of these dulling pattern(s) am I ready to release?
What 3 values support my WHOLE-HIPPED YES? (question offered to me by Mother Mother Binahkaye Joy as she read Brené Brown’s Dare to Lead)
How do I practice and root in these values every day?
What is my BIG ASK of Life right now? (the ask that encompasses or sources all the other asks)
How does this BIG ASK support my WHOLE-HIPPED YES?
What rituals and practices bring me closer to my WHOLE-HIPPED YES?
How do I centralize those practices in my daily rhythms?
Who supports and honors me and my WHOLE-HIPPED YES?
How do I pour into those persons in my life?
What DISTRACTS me from honoring my WHOLE-HIPPED YES?
What IS my NOW WHOLE-HIPPED YES?
There are questions that only matter once YOU dare to ask and answer them to YOURSELF. THOSE are the questions that matter most.
It’s ALL holy. It’s ALL a miracle. It’s ALL you.
nature’s way of becoming
There are many Yeses in our lives. Our duty is to discern the WHOLEHIPPED, BIG HEARTED Yes and set it as our North Star.
Truth is simple. Always.